So love, love so deeply that it hurts, but when you’re in too deep and you feel like you’re drowning its important to know when you have to come up for air and release yourself from the stress that has been keeping you down.
Starting Over Sucks
When you begin dating someone it starts all over again. The little quirks you have become “cute” to another person. They laugh about them and they learn how to live around them. However, its not very easy to just open up and lay those weird things you do out in front of a stranger. Especially one you want to like you. It is intimidating to tell someone that they will have to place every volume on an odd number. It is embarrassing that if they don’t chew with their mouth closed your head might explode. Sometimes its one of the main reasons breaking up sucks. It is exhausting starting all over with someone new.
The First Cut Isn’t The Deepest
It is petrifying to think that you will never find someone that you love as much as your now ex. Every time you break up with a boyfriend it always feels like the end of the world. Chances are the next one always proves to be a better choice for you. They say that the first cut is the deepest. I don’t necessarily think that is true. After a relationship comes to its final demise, you are always a little wiser than you were before it.The more knowledgeable you are about what you want in a relationship the more adequately you are next time. I believe that every time your heart breaks it hurts worse than the last. But you will live, and you can pick yourself up and move on for the next opportunity to present itself.
You Can’t Get In The Way Of Their Happiness
When you love a person, the thought of them being with someone is like an elephant is on your chest. The thoughts going through your head can be vivid and painful. The mind can do amazing things. This to me is one of the scariest realizations of breaking up with someone. If you are doing it, they are too. You can’t hold on to a person just because you are scared of someone else having them. You have to let them go. Trust that what is meant to be will be. If you’re breaking up there is a reason that it’s not working meaning you’re probably just not meant to be. Sometimes things really have to fall apart so other things in your life can come together.
You Aren’t Alone
I know I sound like a walking cliché, but these are all so true. Reading this is probably not going to make anyone leave their significant other. I know it is hard because I am in the boat myself. I really think I am writing this to convince myself to walk away. If one person can take away from this the fact that they aren’t alone in the way they are feeling then I feel like I have done my job. So love, love so deeply that it hurts, but when you’re in too deep and you feel like you’re drowning its important to know when you have to come up for air and release yourself from the stress that has been keeping you down.
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