To The 20 Something With A Desire To Pursue God


Let’s first preface this article by saying, I am by absolutely not an expert. By no means, do I plan on pretending to be one. I am not a bible thumper and also have no motives for trying to turn the whole world Christian. I am merely here to share my experiences. My perspective is that of a twenty something with a very recent enlightenment by what I like to believe was God. Fresh out the gate, I would like to make sure anyone reading this knows I am a total newb.

Don’t Let a Childhood Experience Hinder Your Desire

Growing up in New Jersey I was born into your average catholic family. We were judgey, nosey, and only attended church on the holidays. We attended catholic school because it was the easiest on transportation. In the third grade, I had to switch schools because I was bullied. This is what I have known as religion my whole entire life. This is what I was offered in the basis of religion. Personally, I didn’t feel the desire to spend any more time around the church than necessary.

Moving to Texas, I still didn’t like the catholic churches. Somehow they still provide a feeling of serious judgment when you are in the vicinity. I became very interested in my faith. Especially, after finding a non-denominational church and being in a cheerleading organization that provided a strong religious experience. However, I never wanted to seem to eager at a fear of judgment by others. People might wonder why I was religious all of a sudden. I felt like it would be a bit hypocritical and ridiculous if a person like myself decided to pursue their religion. For the record, I was wrong. A person should never feel out of place when there is any type of desire to pursue God. Everyone has a right to ask him for guidance.

Check It Out

If you step into a church I promise, you won’t be struck by lightening. The roof won’t cave in, you will survive the hour-long service. Trust me, I know from experience. The third time I walked into my church I knew it was perfectly mine. I was 10 minutes late, my boyfriend was a huge guy so no one missed us walking in. We didn’t know where to sit, embarrassed, I was well prepared to just walk out, try again next week. All of a sudden this beautiful blonde woman, with the sweetest soul walked from her seats to grab us. We sat with her. The gesture made me feel as though I belonged there. This person didn’t know me from Adam. She got out of her seat to invite strangers to worship with her.

It’s Okay To Be Anonymous

It is completely normal to go to church, sit, listen, and leave. Some people find that all they need to fill their cup is to show up. Everyone worships at his or her own comfort level. Just because you don’t want to be involved in the family picnic doesn’t mean you can’t come to the service. Don’t be discouraged from going to church just because you don’t want to join in on the extra curricular. You are not signing a contract with anyone except yourself and your God. Also, just because you feel like remaining anonymous this week doesn’t mean that you have to next week. Find your own pace to jump into your religion.

Don’t Be Scared About Your Lack Of Knowledge

One of the things that intimidated me the most about joining the church, life groups, and being part of the serving community was that I felt as though I didn’t have the knowledge I needed. THIS IS SO WRONG. No one can get an “F” in his or her relationship with God. We all have a sense of right and wrong. Being around the church just helps you open your eyes to the work that God is doing. He will tell you what he wants you to hear. Keep your eyes, ears, and hearts open so you can really comprehend what he is trying to tell you. Everyone has started somewhere and no one thinks your stupid for not knowing everything about God and Jesus. Everyone in there is there for the good of our Lord. Most are willing to work with you through your misunderstandings about your religion.

If You Feel Like You Need More, Take More

There is an abundance of love and religion in the church. If you feel like you need more to satisfy your religious desire: take more, go further, and jump in with two feet. Serve your lord with the rest of your church. Get baptized. Do whatever you need to do to feel satisfied, and if you don’t know what that is, find a friend and ask them, I promise they will be more than happy to lead you on the right path to following God the way he wants us all to be following him. Don’t be embarrassed and ashamed to be interested in your religion and what you have to do to become closer to him. You are worth it, everyone is deserving of the love God provides and he loves every single one of his children.

In conclusion, don’t take this as me forcing my religion on you, because that was not it’s intent. My intent here is to let you know that if you are interested, you are not alone. So many of us have been there, confused where to turn on this path to our God and sometimes it is nice to hear that someone else has been there and made it out alive on the other side. I have a new found love for God, Jesus, and my personal sprirtual journey. Good Luck!

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  1. Chioma says:

    Thanks for sharing these tips. I believe they will be helpful to many newbs finding their feet and growing with God. I pray we continue to grow in this place of love and acceptance.

  2. Mimi says:

    I red your post quite intersted tbh, I have a complicated relationship with God, I still haven’t decide if I belive in him or I don’t, there are too many things I don’t like from italian church and I still haven’t found a place where I fit in and right now, I feel like I’m not ready to look for it.

    Love, Mimi

  3. Mimi says:

    I red your post quite intersted tbh, I have a complicated relationship with God, I still haven’t decide if I belive in him or I don’t, there are too many things I don’t like from italian church and I still haven’t found a place where I fit in and right now, I feel like I’m not ready to look for it…

    Love, Mimi

  4. Candice says:

    I really like this post! Religion can be so scary and intimidating, but your advice is so good! Even being a religious person, I can use some of this and deepen my relationship with our Father in Heaven! xo

  5. Brittany says:

    Thanks for sharing. I remember feeling out of place when I would go to church sometimes because I hadn’t read the bible and I didn’t attend Sunday School, so I thought I was behind I guess?

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